What to do when you feel like your mom failing.

In the short time that I have been a mother I have felt so many times like I am doing everything wrong. I see something that my child has done or said, that they clearly learned from me, and I can’t help but wonder when I am going to feel like I am not messing everything up!

In the society that we live in, it is very difficult to ever feel like you are doing a good job! Everyone around us puts on a happy face and it looks like they are doing everything right. We all know the truth that sometimes they are failing but no one sees that part so it looks like everything is all wrapped up in one little perfect family present with the most perfect family portrait of everyone smiling and it is put in a Christmas card that is sent on time!!!!!! (That run on sentence was on purpose – come on, feel my anger building as I rant!) I could scream just thinking about it.

Well, the truth is that as much as we don’t see other people’s failures, most of the time people miss ours too. There is always someone out there that sees something that you are doing and thinks to themselves wow, I wish I could do that. We sit here and encourage the heck out of our kids, telling them that they can do anything that they put their minds to. Well, mama- you can too!

I was in a store the other day picking up pictures to put in Christmas cards to send out because this year I am super determined! An older lady was ordering pictures and sort of talking to herself and I at the same time. She said, “Maybe this year I will get the cards out on time”. This was so encouraging to me. I looked at her and chuckled explaining how I always try to send out cards but it never works out and how it made me feel better that I was not the only one. She explained that she beat herself up for years until finally she said screw it and just sent them late and when people got them, they got them.

Now, maybe you are some guru, super hero who can get cards out on time. If this is the case, refer to paragraph 3 where I talk about everyone having a strength, this one is yours sister. Anyways, to me, this was huge. Here is a woman who has gained wisdom through life, she decided that because it wasn’t her strength, she wasn’t going to stress about it. The pictures that she was printing had many children of hers that were now adults and many grandchildren. Her life has multiplied in marvelous ways and it is not due to Christmas cards.

As mom, we go day in and day out doing things for our kids and sometimes we are going to fail big time. The only thing that we can do it to keep it moving, we have little ones that think that we are super humans even when we fail. How blessed we truly are. Stay encouraged, you’re doing a great job!

24 comments on “What to do when you feel like your mom failing.

  1. As a mother, I don’t think you will ever do anything wrong. All the decisions you take are with the good of your child in mind, so there is no way you can ever take a bad one. Being overwhelmed, sure, that’s hard, but it also happens to every other mother in the world. Nobody knows what to do when they first hold their baby in their arms.

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    • Megan Henderson

      I love this comment! ❤ Thank you so much for reading, understanding and taking the time to comment such a beautiful thought!

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  2. This is an inspiring article, even though I’m not a mom yet I’m sure everyone goes through some overwhelming times! I wish there was more support for moms from society in general.

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    • Megan Henderson

      Thank you so much for reading! Thank you for gaining some incite and standing on the side of mommies! ❤

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  3. We learn every day as a mother, failure is just a lesson that we learn.

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  4. I loved to read your post. Neing a mother or a dad is all aboutt failing and, trie to do better the next time. We can never be sure to do all 100% correct but, we just trie to do the best we can and, learn whit our mistakes and trie to do better the next time.

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    • Megan Henderson

      Thank you so much for reading! You are right, we will never be 100% all the time! I always try to remember to get back up as soon as possible, especially because the little ones are watching!

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  5. Clare Minall

    Oh my, I really love this post. As a mom, I failed too many times but all I do is to stand up for my kids. They are my motivation in life.

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    • Megan Henderson

      This is such an awesome comment. I can feel the love through your words. I am so happy that I started this blog so I can know that other moms out there are having the feelings that I have! Thank you for reading!

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  6. Gervin Khan

    Such a nice post and I really enjoyed reading it. I am a mother of two and I am thankful that I experienced a lot of failures because I learned a lot from it in day by day.

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    • Megan Henderson

      Gervin, thank you so much for reading! It is so crucial to be thankful for the failures but so hard at the same time! Thank you so much for your kind words!

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  7. I think if you’re worried you’re not cutting it, you’re already miles ahead of parents who don’t even care. Caring enough to try and improve is half the battle!

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    • Megan Henderson

      You are so right Alayna! We are way too hard on ourselves!! Thank you so much for reading!

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  8. Parenting does not come with a manual so I do feel mums need to relax more as they make minor mistakes along the way.I remember my mum saying "if a mistake does not burn the house down then it can be fixed" and I feel mum`s should take the same attitude and not be too harsh on themselves.

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    • Megan Henderson

      You are so right!! That is a wonderful slogan! I might just have to adopt that! Thank you for reading!! 🙂

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  9. Often these feelings stem from perfectionist personalities. As long as you are doing your best, that is what counts the most.

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  10. Diana Tidswell

    That’s true, as a mom, even if nobody’s judging us, we often judge ourselves. We are perfectionist of our own motherhood.

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  11. So often we think about how others view is and most of the time, other people aren’t as concerned as we fear. As I get older, I find I just don’t have the energy to care about what others might think.

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  12. I’m not a mom but this was such a good read. I love your encouraging words.

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  13. As a mom I’ve learned to just do the best I can and not compare myself to other moms.

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  14. Bindu Thomas

    I really love this post! Its very inspiring. We couldn’t win all time. Failure is good for learning something.

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  15. I love this post, a person learned from failure so it’s not bad, Your post is so inspiring.

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  16. Well. Moms think that they are not doing that well. But ask us, the kids, to us our mom is the best. Always!

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